Today's lesson, Racism. If you see something written here that you’ve said or done, use it as an opportunity. Take it as a wake up call and make the decision to grow, change and be conscious of your own privilege. Remember, I am not a speaker for the entirety of a people. Use this blog as a reference tool, not as the one and only view on the topic.
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The answer to this is two fold. First, there are three implications in this question. A) That the person you’re speaking to has NEVER tried to be nice BEFORE. B) That this person hasn’t watched OTHER’S try to be “Nice” only to have their “Niceness” confused for weakness and ultimately been stepped on and/or stepped over. C) That the reason you are racist in the first place is because a group of people weren’t “Nice” to you. If lack of “Nice” didn’t cause your racism, is it reasonable for you to demand that it be the cure?
Second, it implies that you are owed a specific reaction, tone or attention that you, and only you, have previously approved of. For example, had you started your question with “If you can’t answer this nicely, please don’t answer it at all.” I am almost certain that in most cases, your question just won’t be answered.
It’s because you are coming into someone else’s space and demanding their time, patience, education and yes, their love. You may think that this isn’t what you are doing but in fact, by asking, nay, demanding that a person speak to you in a “Nice” way, you have stated that you are more valuable. Your feelings are more valuable than theirs. Your time is more valuable than theirs. Your emotions are more valuable than theirs and finally, your affection is more valuable in theirs.
I realize that comprehension is not the strongest for some of the people that may read this. For you, the folks who are hard of hearing, I will explain those last five points to you in more detail.
You have stated that you are more valuable.
Your feelings are more valuable than theirs.
Your time is more valuable than theirs.
Your emotions are more valuable than theirs.
Your affection is more valuable than theirs.
You do NOT get to ask for or DEMAND these things. If there is concern over HOW your question will be answered, it is best that YOU find someone you deem more “Kind” to answer it in the first place. Which brings me to YOUR real issue. You aren’t interested in getting your question answered. There ARE people who are willing to answer questions in the way YOU see fit. The problem is, you would have to LOOK for them. You would have to do RESEARCH to find them. Mind you, many people have shown up on my very own dash offering to take on questions people may have but alas, it is NOT kindness you seek. It is power and assertion. You WANT to insert your bigotry and demands onto others. Then blame THEM for YOUR bigoted existence. THAT is your true reasoning for this faux innocent demand.