Today's lesson, Racism. If you see something written here that you’ve said or done, use it as an opportunity. Take it as a wake up call and make the decision to grow, change and be conscious of your own privilege. Remember, I am not a speaker for the entirety of a people.
The following addition has been made to the “Why can’t you just answer the question” post. The addition is as follows:
The question has already been answered. You have asked the same old question. It’s the first time you’ve asked it but it’s not the first time it’s been asked and answered by the person being questioned. This is frustrating in general but it’s doubly frustrating in this environment. Online, especially in a blog setting, you can look through someone’s blog to see what they have or haven’t addressed before. Yes, I realize that a person could have hundreds of pages for you to go through but if you aren’t even going to try to look, it says that you aren’t interested in doing your own research. This tells the person being asked two things. First, you feel entitled to their time, their holding your hand and their stopping their day to speak directly to you. Second and more importantly, you make it clear that you have no concern for the exhaustive amount of energy this sucks from them and subsequently believe that you are owed this information along with their full attention. It also puts your needs above theirs. If you ask a question and someone answers you with something along the lines of “Read my blog” or “You haven’t read anything I’ve written” you need to stop what you’re doing and go look through their blog. Don’t send some snide remark. Don’t do anything but your own research. If you truly want to know, you will look yourself. If you don’t and feel the need to say something like “You don’t have to be nasty, I was just asking a question” the person being asked now knows that you are a trouble maker and are a person who has absolutely no interest in learning anything.