Today's lesson, Racism. If you see something written here that you’ve said or done, use it as an opportunity. Take it as a wake up call and make the decision to grow, change and be conscious of your own privilege. Remember, I am not a speaker for the entirety of a people. Use this blog as a reference tool, not as the one and only view on the topic.
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The young Sudanese woman trusted you with her image, her story and her dignity. You betrayed her on all counts.
I’ve seen all of the arguments and read both sides. There is a lot of talk about the man being innocent until proven guilty and the fact that we don’t know if what she was saying was true. I’d like to point out what YOU know. You heard her say, QUOTE “I told you! I’m not that kind of girl.” YOU heard this with YOUR own ears. You saw her physically change in front of you. QUOTE “She seemed agitated now” and QUOTE “When the man left, the girl’s demeanor changed completely. She seemed shaken.” This is what YOU heard, saw and felt YOURself.
Next, it was YOU who asked to tell this story. QUOTE “Do you mind if I tell this story?”
You asked to take her picture. She trusted you with her image. You asked her if you could tell her story. She trusted you with her story. You made her feel like she could trust you with her dignity. You broke every trust she bestowed upon you.
From here, your actions became even more horrid. You brought religion into the situation. Simply by adding the “Disclaimer” at the end stating that this man was an Orthodox Jew and that you have QUOTE “High respect for the Orthodox Jewish community” you turned a sick and potentially harmful situation into one of religious accusation. This man did NOT show this level of disrespect BECAUSE he was an Orthodox Jew. These two things are COMPLETELY independent of each other.
As if you hadn’t done enough, you then decide that the woman who put so much trust in you should have both her image and her story scrubbed from the internet. This, I thought, was as low as you could possibly sink. I was wrong.
The most heinous of your actions was actively seeking out someone to write a letter in FAVOR of the sexual predator. QUOTE “I asked him to send me a letter with his thoughts.” The two people who you DID decide should have the benefit of your platform were those who fit the religious description you gave to the sexual predator. The victim, the woman you original claimed that you wanted to help by telling her story so that maybe QUOTE “This man, and all men, realize the emotional damage they are inflicting on the women they try to buy” is someone that you not only decided did not deserve a voice, you decided that ONLY those who wanted to protect the criminal should be heard.
You put those in favor of HIS actions in front of 95,000 sets of eyes. This is a decision that YOU made. This is something YOU requested.
You CHOSE to not only support and stand by a sexual predator but you also wanted to make sure that each and every one of the 95,000 people who are on your Facebook page also know that you believe it is HE and HIS family who deserve kindness and support. You removed her story in order to protect HIS family. A family you don’t even know exists in the first place. Yet, she TOLD you that she was a Mother so at the very LEAST, you have a REASON to believe that SHE has a family.
I ask you, what is it that SHE will see when she comes to your site? What will her children see?
I’ll tell you. They WON’T see their Mother but they WILL see a letter written in favor of their Mother’s predator, at the REQUEST of the very man who asked if he could tell their Mother’s story. They won’t see the beautiful image of their Mother but they WILL see those that defend a man who made every effort to BUY their Mother.
This sir, THIS is who you are and what you stand for.
I know that you decided that the conversation had QUOTE “Run it’s course” but you’ll have to forgive me for not wanting the conversation to EVER end when this is something that happens on a DAILY basis and you have just used your platform to make these actions okay.
Your choices are sick, cruel and unconscionable.