Today's lesson, Racism. If you see something written here that you’ve said or done, use it as an opportunity. Take it as a wake up call and make the decision to grow, change and be conscious of your own privilege. Remember, I am not a speaker for the entirety of a people.
I wrote this post about also being an ally. It’s 100% true…but I had no idea I was an ally until I got a Tumblr account. I didn’t know there was a word for it. I didn’t know it was something to announce or proclaim. Then, I realized that the reason I didn’t know there was a name for it was because I was to busy being it.
I never had a reason to know what it was called.
Now with each passing day, I like the word less and less. It seems like people who say they are an ally or say things about “Ally cookies” are foes not friends.
I know there are exceptions. If I were asked, I would say “Yes, I am an ally to the LGBT community.” Thing is, no one has any reason to ask me that. I’ve never been asked because I am just IN the community. I am straight and I am not the “Girl with the gay guy best friend.” I have doubts about that girl. The girl that says that with “Quotes” around it. She is a foe. My best friend happens to be a gay guy but no one knows that unless they meet him and get into that discussion. People pretty much know where I stand because they hear my damn mouth, they see me fighting beside them and they knew my opinion before I walked in the door.
I am starting to believe that an ally is a person who fights but doesn’t wear the “Ally” badge of honor. Why do you need it anyway? Seeing it as a “Badge of honor” in the first place makes me question you. Why do you need a sign? Why don’t I know where you stand by your actions?
Here on Tumblr, when I read something amazing and think “This person get’s it” and then go to your page and see that you’ve stated your “Ally status” on your about me bar, I don’t immediately dismiss you. I DO look through your blog. I do, often times, more time than I’d like, have to roll my eyes and say “Okay, this is a foe.” This is a person who uses “Ally” as fashion.
To those that claim “Ally” because it’s fashionable, you are dangerous to our fight. Every good thing you say brings people in. Every bad thing you say, justifies the negative thoughts of those that aren’t sure. You are dangerous. You need to find something else to drape yourself over. Go get a hobby that isn’t related to the treatment of human beings. This is not for you. You don’t get it. Your ally status has been revoked.
If you are already standing in unison, you will never need to tell people where your feet are placed.
[Edit] That damn line about “I happen to have a gay guy as a best friend” sounded like shit. I call it on my damn self. Ya’ll knew what I meant and I’m not going to take it out but damn…I wrote that from a high perch, huh?