I got this question today after I told someone not to pat me on the back for the way I handled things yesterday. I answered them directly but I am positive that I have done a disservice in some of my writing so I would like to put my answer here as well.
My “Handling” of the situation would only be worthy of compliment if there were no situation to begin with. Period.
I’ve written about how you only get to say “I didn’t know” once but I believe that is where I may have sent people, including myself, in the wrong direction. I need to re-think that.
The fact is, if I hurt someone with my words/actions, it is my job to correct that pain. Here’s where the problem comes in. My job in the FIRST place was not to hurt anyone. I have already failed if someone has to be put in the position to “Call me out.”
I have always taken the side of “You don’t know what you don’t know.” The only problem here is, in order for this to be an affective argument, there would have to be NO OPTION of learning what you don’t know. There would have to be no one who would be willing to talk to me, there would have to be no books to read, there would have to be no movies, tv shows or pamphlets of any kind. Only THEN could the phrase that I have been standing by truly be an acceptable one.
I have to reevaluate things I have written here because there is going to be someone who does something wrong, hurts someone and then follows my “Rules” and feels that they have done everything right.
I have done a disservice to anyone who reads my writing if this has or does happen.
I need to know better. You need to know better. Knowing better IS AN OPTION. We either choose to know or we choose not to. There is nothing else. No excuse or explanation.
This would surely be different were we talking about paper dolls. Since the subject is that of human beings, it is not acceptable to accidentally hurt someone because you or I “Don’t know any better.”