Unable to dehumanize because the power holders lose nothing (Dignity, power, ect)
At most, shows how white people react to things like brown people being anywhere near them but also shows their big reactions to small things while simultaneously telling brown people to “Get over” HUGE things like racism.
Has been done to show PRIVILEGE not to show that they are “Less than.” Think about the EXACT “Stereotypes” being placed on white people while actors have done white face.
Has no historical relevance
If a white person’s feelings were hurt by white face, they wake up the next day and no one will judge THEM by what they saw. Black people were (and still are) BELIEVED to be these caricatures.
Yes, that WAS black face.
Anyone that uses “…but he has been doing it for years” as an excuse is a racist. Length of time does not suddenly make doing a bad thing okay. (This is why serial murderers are still called murderers and aren’t suddenly “Not a big deal” once they kill their 100th victim)
Those that use “It was just an impression” as an excuse are racists. An impression CAN be and usually IS done without deciding that race needs to be added. If it truly is JUST an impression, would it have been any LESS of an impression had he done it as a white man? Go ahead, I’ll wait…
The “Black face” is part of the joke. It was when he started doing it in the late 70’s early 80’s and it is now. I am amazed by how many people use the “He has been doing it for years” excuse but conveniently disregard that it has ALWAYS been a problem.
He has a movie coming out. Black face worked to get him attention in the past, it is working now. Here we are talking about an irrelevant man…but it was “Just a joke” and people are being “Too sensitive” about RACISM?
The most disgusting of all:
“Black people have done black face” -This is by far the most disgusting thing I have seen on this topic. If you are talking about people like William Henry Lane…HE DIDN’T HAVE A CHOICE you racist piece of shit.
Can someone please explain to me what you think “Cultural Appropriation” is?
I ask this because the other day, during the great Dreadlock debate, I saw post after post that was confusing “Cultural Appropriation” with “I hate white people.” Where did this come from? Where was this written or even alluded to in my post? What did you read and why did you take it that way? No, that last question I actually know the answer to so skip that one.
Let’s clear this up once and for all. The most basic definition I can come up with is this:
Cultural Appropriation- Stealing something significant without respect or regard for the culture you stole it from and using it for purposes other than it’s original intention.
Now I want to turn your attention to some of the key words here.
Stealing-Taking something without permission (Key wording here “Permission”)
Something significant-This will almost always mean something spiritual, ritual and/or sacred
Without respect or regard-Showing no care for the fact that you are taking something that has great importance to a culture
Purposes other than original intent-This often (but not always) means using for fashion or some sort of financial gain without regard or approval
When you read the description and the break down of the description, if you read that as “white people don’t touch” you need to go back and start over. Anyone can appropriate. Anyone. It’s about intent, willful ignorance and disrespect.
Now, in the Dreadlock discussion. SO MANY PEOPLE went straight to “I’m not racist and I have Dreadlocks.” Well, if you said this, you are racist because you denied something no one accused you of. Non-racists have no need to do so. Now, I also realize that people were absolutely saying that “white people should not wear them.” I am not going to speak for those people but let me give my view on that comment.
First, it comes from numbers. When we see white people with dreadlocks and have a conversation with them about their reasons why, what do you think they say? Do I need to finish this sentence? I feel like you know the answer to this question. Whether you want to admit it or not, this is the majority. Now, YOU might be someone who studied the tradition, asked permission and went through all the proper steps to make sure that you were very respectful. If you were, I am pretty sure that statement was not for you. With that being said, if you truly ARE one of those people then you already knew that the statement didn’t apply to you and there is no way you were saying “I’m not racist…” on the post. Second, people that wear them in a traditional way have a very specific look and no, that look isn’t just about race. Did you not see the ongoing conversation about people that have both Dreadlocks and tattoos? What did you think that was about? There was a reason for that discussion. If you don’t understand it then you shouldn’t be commenting at all.
Finally, the “Racial issue” of cultural appropriation. Is there one? Maybe. Here’s the thing though, if I see a Black person with a Chinese symbol tattoo’d on their body, my instinct is going to be that it is cultural appropriation. After discussion, I may find that they know exactly what is tattoo’d on them, why it’s there, what it means, that they studied and got permission from multiple people within the culture itself. Without the discussion, my mind is going to go to cultural appropriation.
If we are talking about a tattoo and we get into the conversation, sure I might say something. However, for something like a tattoo, I am not going to seek people out. We are talking about permanent ink. Dreadlocks on the other hand, well you seem to think they are just a hairstyle anyway so what problem is there for you to NOT do it or cut them off if you are doing it?
I have a lot of feelings about The Help. Many of which can be found in this article. For the most part, when it comes to the actual Hollywood side, it just has me in a weird space.
I want women of color who are talented and do good work to be recognized. I want this with all my heart. I also want it to not be 73 straight years of maids and whores.
Which brings me to my next problem. I respect maids and whores. I feel like me making the statement I just did implies that I see these things as less than or dirty. I don’t. Not even a little bit. Being a maid is hard work. It’s honorable work. If you’ve ever met a sex worker, you know that the same can be said for them. (Yeah, I know some of you are going to have a hissy fit over that last part.) There is nothing wrong with these professions. I feel guilty for saying that I want more for PoC.
I DO want more. You see, my issue is not that I think these things are degrading. It’s that the makers of the movies see them as degrading. It’s that these positions, in their eyes, are of the “Servant” kind. If you are a whore or a maid in a movie, you are expendable and no one will care if you come up missing. You are less than based solely on your “Perceived” station in life. It’s that we can be praised as this and NOTHING else. This is the role of PoC, specifically WoC. This is a problem.
Then, I want to see both of the WoC that are up for Oscars win. (I am writing this before the Oscars so hopefully they have both won by now) However, as talented and as deserving as I think they are, I can’t help but think that a big part of their (possible) win would be related to who they played being WoC. The Academy voters are made up of 94% white people and 77% men. Only 2% of the voters are Black/Latino. On top of this, they are also widely over the age of 60. This shouldn’t matter but…it does. This influences what gets picked. The age and race of the median voter says that maybe they have an idea of what a WoC SHOULD be doing with her life. For all we know, maybe this is what they think we ARE doing with out lives. I am not saying that they do. How would I know. Still, based on the last 73 years of voting, don’t you wonder?
Then I am torn again. I want them to win. Both of them but at what cost? Still, I want them to win but what will this say to America, to other PoC, to the world? Still, I want them to win.
I felt a bit bad about something I reblogged last night. I take full responsibility. I also want to apologize if it upset anyone. Now I want to take the time to clear that reblog up.
The first “Hair” related reblog I made had a caption about Viola Davis’ hair. I agreed with it. However, others read it very differently than I did and took issue with it. Later that night, I reblogged something else. This is what I owe the apology for. I read over the comment and it sounded spot on to me. Then, after seeing it reblogged and the questionable parts bolded, I had to recant my original words.
Here’s the deal, I have strong feelings about hair. I have been in a lifelong struggle with my own. I am happy with it now but it took me just over 21 years to get here. Now, the post made it seem like I was pro-natural. Well, I am. Although let’s be clear, I am also pro-perm.
For myself, I am natural and I have been for years. I would not go back to a perm but it is because of what is written in this post not because I have some grand issue with perms. My story is my story. I don’t think you are more authentic, more black or more in touch with your inner beauty if you go one way or the other.
Yes, I absolutely believe that the beauty standards that are set today are white washed. AND? Your point? The problem I have with this idea is not that it’s false, which it isn’t, it’s that it implies that a Black woman couldn’t possibly prefer her hair permed.
Let me play devil’s advocate here. Say a Black woman really is perming her hair because she wants to somehow look more white or more acceptable to white society. Let’s pretend that is the main reason she is doing this. Even if this were true, isn’t there a chance that she also likes her hair that way? I know, I know she could be “Brain washed” well okay. Again, let’s say that she is. If she is brain washed to like it, then…she likes it.
The point being, SHE LIKES IT.
That is where I get confused about the natural vs perm debate. There was a time when I wanted straight hair…except I didn’t. I wanted hair that I could do something with. Anything. I wanted mixed girl hair and didn’t understand why I didn’t have it. Since that didn’t seem to be an option, permed straight would be the next best thing. I can’t speak for what is or was in my subconscious but I can say that manageability was a huge factor for me. HUGE.
It was the combination of finding out that I did in fact have mixed girl hair and actually having someone teach me how to take care of it that made me go natural. If it wasn’t the combination of those two things, I would be sitting here well permed.
I haven’t seen The Help. I have a huge issue with this movie. Still, I’ve seen Viola Davis in several different roles and she is a powerhouse. It isn’t just that either. She is so, I really don’t know if this will make sense to anyone else but…she is someone I can relate to on such a deep level.
Octavia Spencer also seems to be a wonderful actress but for me, it isn’t the same. There is something I find that I relate to almost on a primal level with Mrs. Davis. I feel like, we have THAT background. The interview she did for the Oscar Special was so good. It was the thing that finally made me understand why I loved her so much.
When she talked about her past, how she grew up and what things were like, I understood. I connected.
I’ve talked about when I moved to an all white world in the middle of my ninth grade year of high school. That can not be compared to what happened during (and before) the Civil Rights movement. It does however make a certain amount of anger rise in me when people talk about how “Not racist” America is now.
My first day of school, some boy I’d never seen before walked up to me while I was trying to find my class and said “Bow down to me, I own you.” I still remember how angry and shocked I was. It was random. Out of the blue. He said it, laughed and walked away. I remember feeling embarrassed, afraid and shocked but mostly, I remember feeling angry at myself. I said nothing. Not one word. Maybe it was just the shock or fear but I really don’t know. I do know that even now when I think about it, it makes me angry that I didn’t say anything back. A few hours later, a totally different boy told me that he liked to ride his horse while wearing a hood and drag people behind it. As bad as that day was, it was probably the best day I had there. I’ll just leave it at that.
This woman, Viola Davis, this beautiful woman talked about her childhood and what she was called. That she was just…an ugly nigger. I couldn’t help but understand.
I want her to win. Not just because of her acting ability. Although she is one hell of an actress. I want her to win for people like me. People that don’t have someone they want to “Be like” when they grow up. People that don’t have their own mirror on television, in movies or books. I want her to win because she deserves the win but selfishly, I want her to win for me as well.
You’ve all heard of Tony Robbins, right? I didn’t really have any strong feelings for him either way until I saw a show about him on Oprah. I had nothing against him. As a matter of fact, his teachings are held in high regard with some of the people I am close to. I never really took the time to look into him personally though. After seeing the show about him, I started to look into his teaching more. He is a pretty interesting guy. He has some good things to say. Where race is concerned, there is one thing he said that sent a shock through me. Tony Robbins believes that there are six things ever human needs. They are:
Seeing these six things in front of me was something I actually found upsetting. My mind immediately went to a very dark, very real place. One of the luxuries that come with white privilege is never having to have your mind go to this place. Never having this kind of fear.
What popped into my head was not how I could apply this information to my life and how I could make my own life better. What I thought of was something that isn’t real. Something that hasn’t happened but very realistically could.
I thought of my son. The one that I don’t have and am not sure I ever will have. I thought of this list and the things I could never give him. How could I give my black son certainty? This man who could be pulled over for being black. Get a longer, heavier sentence if he actually does something wrong or worse, if he makes the mistake to not “Know his place” when a cop decided to frisk him just because he is walking down the street? What if the cops never come into play? How do I tell this man that if he works hard in school he can go to college only for him to find out that the reality is that even if he does work hard and get into college, he will be constantly told that the reason his is there is because he is brown and not because he deserves to be there. His every day will be a question of “Do I deserve to be treated like a human being?” Often with the answer coming back as “NO.”
This went on and on. I thought about how I would raise this son that I don’t have and how each one of these six things could at one time or at all times be something he can’t have.
Then it turned to me. The “Variety” one almost made me laugh. I have always wanted to go skydiving. I have had so many conversations about it. I am going to do it. Still, I can’t help but be irritated at how many times I’ve been told that “Black people don’t do that.” I have to stop myself from even getting upset about it because you know what, I remember telling someone that Black people don’t bungee jump so…pfft!
The point is, if these six things are in fact what every human needs, there is an entire population of people that aren’t having their needs met. There are Mothers and Fathers who have to live a life knowing that they can’t ever give these things to their children. Then, there are a whole group of people that will roll their eyes and say “No, everyone can have these things” and believe that because it is true for THEM it MUST be true for all.
When it comes to Self Help books, I take them with a grain of salt. My educational background would suggest that I would be a big fan. Thing is, I am…but I’m not. There are some fantastic books out there. One of which I will discuss in this post but before I do, I want to say that if you are a fan of the Self Help section, be careful. People are making a LOT of money in that area and not all of them care about much more than that. With that said, I’d like to talk about one of my favorite, possible THE favorite Self Help book I’ve ever read.
This is the book I recommend to everyone. No matter what you are going through, been through or might go through. This is a book that made me reevaluate my life. How does this apply to race issues? I’ll tell you. The Four Agreements are as follows:
Be Impeccable With Your Word
Don’t Take Anything Personally
Don’t Make Assumptions
Always Do Your Best
In my opinion, if all four of these were truly practiced, you would not be able to be racist. The biggest (as related to race) being “Don’t make assumptions.”
How different would race relations be if there were no stereotypes? No preconceived notions. If everyone were truly judged, well…equally? Personally, these four agreements are something that I have not mastered myself. I wish that I could say otherwise. It’s an ongoing journey. Still, so is not being racist. To not be racist you have to fight against your natural society. You have to fight against what has been beat into your psychi. Every single time you leave your home, every single time you turn on the tv, every single time you read anything you have to dissect it. You have to be aware of the implications of what you are taking in. This can be exhausting. This “Awareness” that I always encourage is so much more than you saying “I know I have white privilege.” It is an ongoing, everyday awareness that should make things stand out.
When you finally acknowledged your privilege, did it end there? Did you notice that your words were taken more seriously in discussions? Did you notice that you didn’t have any fear about driving down the road and being passed by a police officer? Did you notice that TV show that only shows black women as “Sassy, neck rolling women who don’t take shit from anyone?”
That’s another thing, these “Not so bad” representations. When you just read “Don’t take shit from anyone” did you think, “That’s a good thing?” If you did, you’re wrong. It’s a caricature. Why do Black women HAVE to be “Strong” and why is “Strong” defined as angry? You can’t be strong AND cry? Who told you that? That is bullshit. I digress…
If reading things PoC have written about their lives is to difficult for your to understand, try this. Yes, he is a person of color as well but he is talking about an overall of being a better person. He isn’t talking about his life per se. I recommend it. I recommend it for everyone. I believe that if you, I…everyone could master this information, we’d be so far in the right direction that all else would be easy to fix.
Of course, every once in a while, I still like to believe in miracles so…
Every day, I repeat-EVERY.SINGLE.DAY I see someone get upset about the above statement. To try to disprove it in some way. Everyday I equally see someone TRY to explain it only to have more people jump in with some sob story of this one time when a bunch brown people attacked white people.
None of the definitions work for you. None of the long, perfectly reasonable explanations work for you. How about we try something different. You’ve heard it before (I’m sure) but maybe you just need to see it in a different light.
YOU CAN LEAVE.
YOU CAN PINPOINT.
YOU CAN STATE A SINGLE ACT.
Are the above statements confusing? Well, let me tell you, if you asked me to write down every single racist thing that has ever been said to me, ever happened to me or ever been pushed on me, I would never be able to do it. Not even close. It’s part of my all day, every day life.
You on the other hand, can either pinpoint something specific or at the very least, you can pinpoint a specific time in your life. You were the only white kid in an all black school? That must have been rough. How are you NOW though? You good? Mkay then that wasn’t racism.
I know this is a hard pill for you racists to swallow but I am going to try to get it down your throat again…
RACISM IS SYSTEMATIC.
RACISM IS PHYSICAL.
RACISM IS EMOTIONAL.
RACISM IS FINANCIAL.
RACISM IS JUDICIAL.
RACISM IS ALL DAY, EVERY DAY FOR AS LONG AS YOU LIVE.
If you do not have all of the above, you are not being racially oppressed.
Key words: ALL OF THE ABOVE.
For those that haven’t seen it yet, here is a handy dandy guide to help you understand the true meaning of racism.
It causes me a particularly special amount of rage when I see/hear people justify their actions by saying they have a mental illness.
No, I’m not saying that mental illness can’t cause a person to act in a hateful manner. I am talking about something very different.
Let’s look at the Jenny Hyun situation as an example. Those that were so happy to justify her actions continued to state that she had Hwabyeong. I have absolutely no proof that she does or doesn’t. Weather or not she has this illness is actually not the point. What I want to point out is what happened after her outburst.
You see, the reason “She has a mental illness” doesn’t really fly with me is because with an illness like this one, if she does in fact have it, it comes in bursts. Sure the bursts can be very long and yes, they can absolutely cause her to say the things she said in her Twitter tirade.
Here’s the part that gets lost in the shuffle…what happened next?
Since I really have no idea if she truly does have this illness, from this point on, I am going to speak as if I know for sure that she DOES have it.
Now, the closest thing I can compare this disease to is Tourette Sysndrome. No, it is not the same. However, it is the closest thing I can think of that Americans might be familiar with. With Tourettes, there are sudden and uncontrollable outbursts. Often using words that will cause harm to those around you. Many associate it with curse words but it is much worse than that for many. Even with Tourettes, racist language can often come out when near a person of another race.
Because I have some understanding of how these things work, I have no problem what so ever believing that what happened on Twitter WAS caused by Hwabyeong. None. Not even a little bit.
Here’s where I do have a problem though, her “Apology.”
For those that didn’t see it, I’ll give you the short version. She stated that she had no regrets about what she said. She just wanted everyone to know that she realized that people knew her address and that violence was not okay.
Yes, the person who asked for the genocide of all black people said…ugg…let’s keep going.
You see, the part that is getting overlooked is that having this kind of disease COULD make you say horrible, racist things. BUT…having this disease does NOT make you a terrible person. Confused?
Well, after her outburst, why was there no REAL apology? People who go through this KNOW WHAT THEY SAID. They also KNOW THAT WHAT THEY SAID WAS WRONG. Not being able to control your outbursts and being a shit human being are not the same thing. When she was calm, when she was able to relax and think, she chose to say that she didn’t regret anything she said. That is a comment on her CHARACTER. That has nothing to do with any mental illness. Remorse and knowing the difference between right and wrong do not disappear when you have this kind of illness.
I will not ever say that she doesn’t have it. I will say that if you are a person who used her illness as justification, you obviously agreed with her and that was a way for you to say it without actually saying it. Also known as a “Racist Coward.”
Note: Jenny Hyun was used as an example in this post but let me be real clear, this goes for anyone that would dare use their illness as justification. You know you have it. You know the steps you need to take to protect others if need be, you do NOT get a “Get out of bigot land free” card by evoking your mental illness.
Second note: Can I also point out that less than a week has passed and evidently it was considered “Not that big a deal” by day TWO? Hell, who am I kidding? Day ONE!
Note from author: This post is a travesty. The intent was solid but the follow through was malarky. Are Dreadlocks cultural appropriation? Yes. Everything after the “Yes,” should be ignored. The corrected post is here.
Are Dreadlocks really cultural appropriation?
Dreadlocks originated first with Jamaican Rastafarians and then in Indian Sages and Yogis. Specifically it was started by holy men. These men renounced all of their worldly belongings (Including combs) and as a result their hair started (and remained) to turn into dreadlocks. In the beginning, it was actually something very beautiful to show that you’d given yourself and all that you possessed to GOD.
Then, it turned into something ugly. When these holy people were seen by others, they were looked down on. Seen as less than because as they gave up all they had, that also meant they gave up their money. They were the poorest of the poor and the dreadlock became a sign of being poor, dirty and less than human.
This was an extremely spiritual symbol. It was not a fad or something people did to show their love of weed.
As time went on, the Indian culture did not see anything terribly interesting about the dreadlocks. However, Jamaicans as well as those in the Caribbean thought otherwise. They believed that the dreadlocks were part of a religious lifestyle and actually considered the hair to be holy and powerful.
Dreadlocks are believed to have made it to the USA during the time of slavery. Both Black slaves as well as Indian slaves were captured and both brought this holy symbol and belief with them.
For the ignorant that want to get dreadlocks because they are Bob Marley fans or because they “Like the Rastafarian lifestyle.” I say, FUCK YOU. Many of you believe that the “Lifestyle” you like so much is about “Relaxing and smoking weed.” Nothing could be further from the truth. As a matter of fact, if Bob Marley was any kind of representation for your wanting the locks in the first place, you know absolutely NOTHING about Bob Marley.
He was a truly spiritual man. His hair, his lyrics and the way he lived his life were representative of this. (Yes, he did some questionable things. That isn’t what this post is about though) For you to take a spiritual symbol and chalk it up to your love of weed, is not only appropriation, it is down right disgusting and cruel. There is this gross misconception that just because religion is a weapon, an afterthought or something to reference during political debate in this country that it is the same in others. IT IS NOT. Your actions are shameful and mean. You are acting disrespectfully and you have chosen to do so with no forethought or concern for who you are hurting.
This “Hair style” that you are choosing to believe is about sticking it to your parents, smoking weed, “loving” Bob Marley (even thought you clearly know nothing about him) or even about “Love and peace” is SO MUCH BIGGER THAN THAT. It is just not bigger than that TO YOU. It isn’t “That big a deal” TO YOU. That is how you know without a shadow of a doubt that you are in fact a bigoted cultural appropriator. You just don’t give a damn. Privilege and entitlement reign supreme.
I have no respect or kindness for those that chose willful ignorance. It took me less than three seconds to find this information on Google. I don’t mean, it took three-ish seconds guys. I mean, I timed myself and found page after page after page of this information. I mean, I timed myself and withing those three seconds, I found more than one page that answered every single question I had. What is your excuse? You are CHOOSING to be a racist, bigoted, cultural appropriating piece of garbage. It is not okay.
((Note: These are all things that crossed my dash in a 90 minute period of time))
Things you can say that would make me think you were a racist and why:
Your opposition is specific-Your blog is filled with pictures and the only time you post something written is in opposition of the “African American History Museum” or something equally anti- (not your own) race specific.
You Start your post/comment/reply with “I’m not racist.”-We’ve been through this but just a quick reminder, non-racists don’t need a “Qualifying statement.”
Race doesn’t exist. It’s a social construct-This is just stupidity. As it was pointed out in the original post, saying “It is a social construct” doesn’t make it “Not real.” Most things we hold true are social constructs so this particular derailment is all kinds of dumb.
I don’t see color (see also: We’re all human)-We’ve been through this as well but real quick, Example: If you don’t see color that would mean that you see police brutally attacking 100 unarmed people and since you do not see color you will refuse to see it as a racial issue. Even when it is pointed out that this kind of sick shit happens over 87% more often to non-white people. You will not allow yourself to see this as a “Racial issue” because you “Do not see race” and therefore are continuing to be part of the problem simply because you are incapable of being part of the solution. Ya know, ‘cause…color blind and stuff.
I am Bi-Racial so I know both sides-I CALL BULLSHIT! Um…let me just point something out real, real quick honeybun. If one of your “Halves” is white, you don’t see anything “More clearly” than anyone else. This entire line makes me want to pounce on you and not in the fun sexual way. If you live in America or anywhere that has a predominately white society, NO MATTER YOUR RACE, you know the “White side.” It is the side that is chosen as “The norm.” Because it is “The norm” there is no great challenge to understanding. There is nothing to see more clearly. White is the voice of the nation. EVERYONE HEARS THAT VOICE. On top of that, from one Bi-Racial person to another, I think you are a real dick. That should mean more to you coming from me because ya know, “I see both sides too.” Pfft.
Every race has been oppressed/enslaved at one time or another-Once again, been there done that. Still, I have yet to see this be brought up in a conversation that was specifically about slavery. This particular form of derailment is pretty damned disgusting because as much as you might like to shout “We were all…at one time” the lasting affects of each particular group IS NOT THE SAME. In order for this argument to be a valid one, the SYSTEMATIC OPPRESSION would have also had to be equal. They were not and are not.
I have a project I will be working on over the next two days. During that time, I will be sharing some fun (and maybe a couple that are not so fun) Black History facts with you guys instead of writing anything personally myself.
Over the past week and a half, I’ve seen three separate bloggers that I follow as well as myself, be called “white.” Now, the interesting thing about this is that A) None of us are white but more importantly, B) “white” was being used as a derogatory BY WHITE PEOPLE.
I am not sure if it happened this way for all four of us but I do know that at least two people that were called “white” were called this by white people who were trying to say that BECAUSE the bloggers were white, they didn’t know what they were talking about when speaking on racial issues.
Here’s the thing though, that almost sounds like a reasonable argument doesn’t it? Except when I went a little deeper, it wasn’t someone who was saying this as in “You are white, you have no idea what PoC go through.” They were saying “This is a white person trying to act like they are one of THEM so they can pretend they are the voice of authority.” Even that, almost sounds like a semi-reasonable argument. Except…when you go to the blog of these people. Can you guess what I found? I bet you can. LOTS OF RACIST AND RACE BAITING POSTS!
So basically, they were saying that we were white because in their heads, that would discredit anything we said. Again, I suppose I shouldn’t say “We” because I am not sure if that was the case for myself or not. I heard it second hand so it may or may not have been said that way. It could have been a misunderstanding I suppose. Well ya know, except that I actually talk about my own race all the time. Anyway…
I found it interesting that a couple of their blogs were so “white is right” but then they were using “white” as proof that “This person is white so anything they say against me is bullshit because they don’t know anything about oppression.” Oh wait…no, one of them was saying that one of the bloggers was living on “white guilt” and didn’t like them because they didn’t think they should be guilty for being white.
Either way, I found it odd. The entire thing, odd.
Each person that was being accused of being white, was someone who like myself, talks about things they have gone through as being a part of a certain race. Why speak on who someone is based on their blog but not actually read their blog? No need to answer, we all know the answer, right?
Supreme Court To Revisit Affirmative Action In University Of Texas Case
According this article, this fall Abigail Noel Fisher is taking an “Affirmative Action" lawsuit to the Supreme Court. Several issues here.
I tried to do some research on this girl and guess what, there is NO ACTUAL REASON for her to believe that her race was an issue. Why is the Supreme Court seeing this case? Money and Politics talk. As with every Supreme Court case, the case has already been to lower level courts and she has lost each time. Now, many of the articles I have found are framing this as an “Are white people getting the shaft” situation. However, if you take a closer look at this article, you will see that what she is actually opposing is that UT is allowed to use race under what they call “Special circumstances.” Because this school HAS this as an OPTION, she has decided that there could be NO OTHER POSSIBLE REASON THAT SHE DIDN’T GET IN. Sadly, she has the money to back up her hissy fit.
Yes, that is what it is folks. There is a REASON she lost on lower level courts. Now, the scary part is that when she goes to the Supreme Court, even though her arguments are non-sense and have already been proven otherwise, she could actually win. This case is being seen as a “Political ploy.” There are several VERY CONSERVATIVE judges on the Supreme Court right now and many of them believe that any sort of Affirmative Action goes against white people. Some have even made previous statements as to this belief.
Now, remember when I did a post about Affirmative Action? Well, then you also remember how I told you that under Affirmative Action, there were MANY things considered that had nothing to do with race. Yet, like I said in that post, many law suites fall under the category simply for political reasons. Under Affirmative Action, this person would be covered because she is a female. Still calling it an Affirmative Action Law suite though aren’t they? See how important words are in our every day life? All the racists have to see are the words “Affirmative Action” and they are off and running. It doesn’t REALLY matter if it actually is, right?
Now, after reading this today, I decided that I would temporarily lift a ban I have on this blog. I purposely keep the discussion about Black/white people (with a few re-blog exceptions) because that is my personal experience. However, when doing research for the post on Minority Scholarships, I came across some interesting information. Since it was about a race that I was not a part of, I wasn’t completely comfortable discussing it. Today, I say fuck that.
You know who should REALLY be upset about this law suit? ASIANS.
I found page after page of information about how Asians had to have a higher performance record to get into the same schools. No, let me clarify that. If a student of every single race was trying to get into the same school and each and every one of these students had the same GPA, Same community service work, were in the same clubs, had the same finances and over all had each and every part of their lives identical, but there was only enough slots for all but one of these students, the Asian student would be the one who wouldn’t get in.
Asians have to have a higher GPA…a higher everything for that matter to get into the same schools. Not higher than one or two racial groups, higher than ALL of the other racial groups. Sadly, my research showed that “Affirmative Action” had very little to do with helping minorities get into college. Yet, my research also showed that colleges had a particular hard on for (possibly) keeping Asians out. This isn’t something that is happening at one or two schools either. This is Nation wide. It’s disgusting.
Yes all minorities should be pissed off about this law suite for the simple fact that it implys that A) Minorities got in simply because of their race and B) She DIDN’T get in simply because of her race.
BUT…Asians should be burning shit to the ground over this. There really is descrimination in college admissions and the group discriminated against is NOT the white folk, it’s Asians.
A guy I used to go to school with would post racist shit on Facebook. For the most part, I would ignore it as much as I could. I called him on some shit but mostly would just ignore the post. Then, after starting to write this blog, I had a moment when I thought…why am I ignoring this? It’s not okay. I didn’t have much time to think about this because he decided that he would post some shit about Barack Obama and then some straight up “white supremacy” shit but ya know…it was only a joke. At least that was one of the things he said when I called him on it. Here are a few other things:
I am one of the most open-minded people you will ever meet
I believe that people should agree to disagree sometimes
as long as no one is being hurt, then no one is doing anything wrong
some people are more sensitive than others and that isn’t a bad thing
That last one, yeah…I think that is where my head started to swell in preparation to explode. I reminded him of the things he’d said and posted. I pointed out that he was a racist. To which he replied:
I am not a racist. Matter of fact, my grandfather, who I loved very much, was black
I am truly a good hearted person with a warped sense of humor
I will give the shirt off my back to anyone, provided that they really need it
I work hard, I think of my family first, I do what I’m supposed to do
Please don’t judge me unless you know me better. That makes you as bad as you try to make me out to be
The last line there, again made my head want to explode. Specifically because the day before this happened, I told him what a piece of shit he was for his “Anti-Foreigners” rant. Not to mention the blatant fact that he (as racists often do) compared my calling him on his racist shit to actually BEING a racist.
Again, I pointed these things out to which he replied:
I am NOT a racist… never have been, never will
It’s really hypocritical how you call me out on judging people when you assume the worst of me, when you couldn’t be further from the truth
I just wish that you would realize that I am not a hate-filled person, just a smartass sometimes
Once again, I pointed to what he’d just said, specifically the “I can’t be racist because” crap and then reminded him of the stuff he’d been saying. His reply:
How can I be a racist? I’m 25% black, for Christ’s sake
This went on for quite a while. It was ridiculous and I felt like it was going to be never ending. It did end however, when I pointed out the following and he abruptly deleted me!
A Non-Racist would never say “I’m not racist.” They instead would realize the severity of the word and accusation and ask what they’d done to make a person think that. A non-racist would want to know what they’d done so that they could make sure they didn’t do it again.
I sent him a couple of links to posts from this page. Namely, the stuff about “I’m not racist because…” I told him that non-racists don’t need a “proof” qualifier.
A non-racist would NEVER believe that anyone ELSE could clear their character. Not who they date. Not who is in their family. Not who they stand near in the subway.
He didn’t like that.
His last replies were all about…well, this is what he said:
You are over-emotional and neurotic
Then, he deleted me and blocked me so that I couldn’t reply. I’ve never been called “Neurotic” before! That was a new one. I’m just going to leave this hear so that everyone can see and maybe link back to what a “Non-Racist” racist looks like. Notice, not once was any responsibility taken on his part but it sure was put on me that I was somehow “Overreacting.” No that wasn’t it..I was “Over-emotional.” ‘Cause you know…just jokes and stuff. REALLY?
I keep seeing discussions about when and if a capital letter should be used when saying “Black” people and/or “White” people. I’ll be honest here, this was something I’d never really given a lot of thought. When I look back at things I’ve written, it seems that I do both but equally. If I capitalize “Black” then I will capitalize “White.” If I use a lower case for one, I also use a lower case for the other.
I thought about this for a while. It actually started to bother me. I tend to be a “Pleaser” so when I really dissected it, I think I did those things out of “Fairness” to each side. The problem I am now faced with is that, it is not fair.
In a previous post, I explained the differences between “white power” and “Black power” and how those things were not the same. As I was writing the words, I had a moment where I said…”Wait a minute?” You see, there is a reason that when talking about people, “Black” should be capitalized and “white” should not.
“Black” is our race. It is our heritage. It is the most we have to go on when talking about “Where we come from.” However, white is Polish, German, Swiss, Dutch, etc.
In theory, “Black” would be African. Before I started doing my own research, I would have agreed with that. Let’s forget for a second how vague “African” is. I mean, we aren’t talking about a city or a country. We are talking about a continent. Africa is big ya’ll. It’s real big. Still, let’s put that to the side for a second. What I am now realizing is that there were “Black” people from all over the world who came here to be slaves. When it was dark skin, it was all the same.
The Black Latinos and the Black Africans were exactly the same. As were every other “Black” person from where ever that landed here. It didn’t really matter “Where” you came from. It mattered that you were here, you were black and you were less than human.
Since our history has been greatly erased, all we have is a general “Black.”
“Black” must be capitalized when talking about a people because it is not a simple descriptor. It is a culture. Not a culture as in “The Hip Hip Culture.” It is culture as in “Heritage.”
Black is equal to Irish. Black is equal to German. Black is equal to Polish. Black is NOT equal to white. Black must be capitalized. Black is not a description, it is a heritage.
I’ve been thinking a lot about “I don’t see color” and “People are people” and “We’re all the same.”
I wonder what this means to the people who say these kinds of things. For example, the people who say things like “If you would stop focusing on race, everything would be fine.” For the purpose of my point, I am going to overlook the stupidity of the sentence and not point out that I am not “Focusing on race.” Oh did I already point it out, never mind. Anyway, I guess what I want to know is, what do you think that world would be like?
Let’s all be honest about this, I tend to hear this from white people. My question is, if we all were to act as you believe we should act, what would that world be like? How would the world be different for YOU? What differences do you think the world would hold for ME?
This is all absurd of course because we can never really know. I just can’t help but wonder what kind of utopia these people think “Stop focusing on race” would bring. Their lives would be exactly the same, right? That sentence means nothing to them personally so they can dish it out at will because it’s basically like “Sloppin’ the hogs.”
Do ya’ll get that reference? Should I explain that? I don’t know if that is a Southern specific thing to say. Okay, just in case…that means that it is basically saying that the hogs should be grateful for what you give them BUT whether you give them your scraps or not, YOU’VE already eaten so it makes no difference TO YOU.
Now that I think about it, so many things fall into the “Sloppin’ the Hogs” category. Hmm…
Something about all the fuss surrounding The Arkh Project has really been bothering me.
I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. I wasn’t sure what it was. I mean, I knew that it pissed me off when I saw the Anti-Arkh posts and then went to check out the original blogger only to discover racist post after racist post. Still, that wasn’t quite it. Sure seeing the posts that insinuate that it’s all being run by one person was also dumb but that wasn’t it either.
I finally realized that the thing that has been bothering me so much about it is that I want to do something too. I have three projects that I’m working on. None of which are ready for prime time yet but that’s not the point. The point is, I feel like if I weren’t as far along as I am right now, seeing all the shit that people are throwing at The Arkh Project might make me re-think how much these things meant to me.
I’m not saying I would give up but what if I did? What if someone else has a great idea and they are watching this all unfold and seeing the hate being thrown at the creators and say “I’ll hold off for a while.”
What if there really is someone out there who has a world changing idea. What if they are someone reading your blog, reading the Arkh blog, reading the love and seeing the hate. What if they feel like they “Couldn’t take” the hate?
I know this is all very “Hippie dippie” of me but knowing how things like this actually affect children, it make me wonder. Do any of us ever grow out of the fear of being picked on? Is there a class to teach you how to have thicker skin and not take it personally when people put down your idea?
In theory, I have really thick skin…but only in certain situations. I can deal with a racist. Even as a passive aggressive person, I can deal with a racist. That sounds big, right? Well, when I first started writing, it took me years…I am talking YEARS to get over people saying they didn’t like something I wrote. Even now, I am not totally sure I am over it. Having a “Thick skin” in one area doesn’t mean you have it in all areas. When the idea is yours, something that you’re proud of and something that (let’s be honest here) you want other people to like, it is hard to hear when they don’t. It hurts.
I think that is what is bothering me so much about the back and forth with The Arkh Project. You see, with any venture there is a chance that nothing will come of it. I feel like it is easy to (for lack of a better word) fail at an idea. I am just hoping that if the project doesn’t go as far as the creators would like, it doesn’t stop other people from trying to get their ideas off the ground.
I wish people would think before they started spewing their hate. Then again…I wish that for every aspect of life.
doctorofnothing asked: Do you think it is possible for a mixture of cultures to exist within a multi-ethnic land (i.e. a part of one’s “identity”) such as America without xenophobic/racist tendencies? Such as pride in one’s “home” culture/heritage, stereotyping, refusal to mix with and add to the land’s multi-ethnic “culture” (instead, focusing on upholding one’s “home” culture defensively), and etc?
I believe that “Pride in your culture” and being a racist are two VERY different things.
I think so much of the confusion about “Pride” comes from “White pride.” White pride is and likely always will be considered a racist term. The reason is because it is a systematic separation.
Do you know how many actual CULTURES fall under the umbrella of “White?”
Irish pride is not a problem. Polish pride is not a problem but I promise you, “White pride” is a BIG problem.
It doesn’t help that “Black pride” doesn’t have the same connotation. Sadly, because so many of us do not know our specific heritage, “Black pride” is equal to saying “Irish pride.” For us, “Black” is our “Culture” and I think that causes confusion…or at least racist people like to PRETEND they don’t understand it and use it as an excuse.
Now with every other race, I believe being culturally proud is a good thing.
As far as the separation thing goes, I think a lot of that is about preservation. I think it is far less about keeping “Others” out as it is, keeping others from feeling entitled to know why you wear ceratin clothes, drink certain teas, listen to certain music. For many groups, I believe that “Separation” is about being SAFE. It isn’t about being mean to “Others” or even not wanting to “Blend” with other people. It is just a “Safe haven.” A place where everyone that is with you…just…get’s it. You can talk about some stupid TV show and relax instead of educating people on your day off.
[Edit] After re-reading the question, I think I may have misunderstood. Just in case, I think that as far as wanting to uphold your own country’s “Culture” as a whole, there is nothing wrong with that but it is a FINE line. In theory, you can be Pro-America but not Anti-other countries. I suppose it would be a case by case basis though. Most of the people I hear shouting about the greatness of America are doing so in opposition of another country. Still, with that being said, I am thankful that I was born in America (even with it’s MANY flaws) but I don’t feel that in opposition to other countries. I suppose it’s possible but…you’d be dancing a tight rope.
lolfestivaltesticles69 asked: While looking for scholarships I might have a better chance of winning, I look for ones for low income. However, it wasn’t until I was already deep into the application process that I found out that it was a scholarship for a certain minority. This confuses me, because wouldn’t that be a really important part of the scholarship? If you’re trying to help a group effected by oppression or exodus, wouldn’t you want all of them to know? Reading your blog, I thought, is it because they’re afraid? They want the highschool to advertise their scholarship, they want the add to stay up, is that why they don’t say it? There are so few scholarships that are strictly for certain groups of people, yet the ones that are can be so hard to find.
I think it’s a couple of things. People giving the scholarships want to be as opportunistic as possible. Many of the “Minority specific” scholarships have a clause in them that states that if a specific minority isn’t chosen, it can go to the next eligible applicant. They don’t all do this but I know that many of them do.
Also, I believe that there is a fear of highlighting things that are specific. For example, if you highlight a “Latino Scholarship” then, an Asian person may get upset and sue. I think it is partly about doing what will cause the least amount of trouble.
With that, there actually are race specific scholarships for every single race. Even white people. I didn’t know this until I did research for something I was writing. But there are “White only” scholarships just as there are scholarships that are meant to be any other race specific.
Let’s say that there is a school that is mostly white/black/latino. If that school were to highlight the fact that they have scholarships for those three specific groups, then the ONE Asian could sue for discrimination. The Asian student wouldn’t even be wrong for doing that. They SHOULD be represented.
Even if there were a school that was made up of white/black/latino students ONLY. No other race but then, someone didn’t get a scholarship. They can EASILY say that they also have Native American blood and if there had been a scholarship for Native Americans, they would have gotten a scholarship. Discrimination law suite again.
Those are some of the reasons but if I’m being honest, I actually think most high schools fall into a totally different category altogether. Many just take the information they are given and leave it at that. Many scholarships use high schools as “Advertisement” for their companies. Because of that, schools don’t have to go looking for scholarships, scholarships come to the schools. Most schools don’t really care what the scholarship entails. Not because they don’t care about the students but because they see it as “This is money that will help one of our students get into college.”
The black population takes up around thirteen percent of America.
This is so interesting to me because you would think we were the biggest, baddest, most evil, overly breeding villians in the world.
The reason this number is so amazing to me is because people say things like “Barack Obama only won because he got the black vote.” Welp, I know math is hard but let’s just take a real quick look at that. If every black man, woman and child voted for Barack Obama AND let’s pretend that we are a full thirteen percent, Wait? How the hell did he get elected? The nigger percent can’t do shit. Hmm…weird.
Then, I hear things like “Food stamps and welfare are for black people.” Let’s roll the tape: The last number I remember seeing was that over twenty-eight percent of people in America were on some form of food stamp/welfare assistance. Okay so again, even if every single black man, woman and child were on welfare…
Then there is the evil minority scholarships. All together now…even if every single black man, woman and child were to take a scholarship from the white folk….
It’s like there is a theme here.
What about the more broad statements like “Black Ghetto Culture is ruining America.” (Something I actually saw recently) Wouldn’t this statement mean that THIRTEEN PERCENT of the population is SO POWERFUL and so PERSUASIVE that we somehow overtook the “Good, upstanding” non-black ghetto people?
I am so irritated with this term. Specifically, I am irritated with this term being used to describe this blog. Who made that decision for me? I didn’t make it. In addition, why is it that I am almost always referred to as a “Social Justice Blog” when my post is being reblogged by someone who doesn’t like something I’ve written?
Okay, so that means that “Social Justice” is a bad thing then, right?
Well, okay I’ll buy that. I mean, from what I can tell, there are a shit load of self proclaimed “Social Justice” blogs dedicated to Feminism that are just filled with hate. I can see how you could come to the conclusion that “Social Justice” is a bad thing.
Still, who told you that is what I am doing here? Why do you get to decide what I am doing and then use your decision as a slanderous term?
This is where my confusions comes in: Not only have I never said that this was a “Social Justice Blog” or that I am a “Social Justice Activist” but the thing that seems to be putting me into this category (against my will) is that I talk about…my experience.
You thought I was going to say “Because I talk about race” didn’t you?
Here’s the thing, my experience is with race and that is what I talk about. I don’t have a problem with “Social Justice” per se. However, I do take issue with it being used to describe this blog.
Why? Well, because what you are labeling as “Social Justice” is my ACTUAL LIFE.
My life is not a movement.
My life is not a weapon, a call to action or a pretty picture to represent how much you “Get it.” I’ve made this comment before but this time, I’ll elaborate: I started this blog as a form of therapy. The simple fact is that because I felt like I was saying the same things over and over again, I wanted to write everything down and just give people links to this already played out record. It’s that simple. That was the entire purpose. I could say what I needed to say and if I didn’t want to, I would never have to say it again. Just a simple link and a jaunty “Fuck you!” That was and still is my entire goal for this blog.
This is not a “Social Justice” blog. This is just another Saturday were I woke up being half black.
“I am NOT, and I repeat am NOT racist, nor have I ever been, and I seriously doubt that I ever will be”
“There is always going to be people who hate certain races. It’s time to get over it.”
“I don’t agree with it but there is nothing you can do.”
“I am so sick of the colored people that always seem to think that us white people owe them something for what happened over 50 years ago.”
“But sweetie, you yourself aren’t a slave, and have never been one in your lifetime.”
“I’m so sick of people being called a racist for speaking their mind.”
“I personally think the main reason for it is because colored people are angry because of what happened to their people way back when. I think it’s time we got over it, you know?”
“You should be proud of the people who helped end it, yes.”
How about we take this line by line, shall we:
“Not a racist”-Then, can you please tell me why you needed to first use a disclaimer? The “I’m not racist but…” is a sign that you KNOW what you are about to say is racist so…you DO know that everything you said was racist. If you didn’t why start this way?
“Colored” -Oh goodness…I can’t even. I mean…can I just assume that everyone understands this one?
“It’s time to get over it” -Okay, you first. Oh did you NOT realize that it was YOU and ONLY YOU who brought up slavery? Let’s keep going…
“…but there is nothing you can do” -Therefore, I will continue to be a racist and I think you should continue to be happy to take it. If you don’t you are irrational and living in the past. You can’t POSSIBLY be upset about anything that is happening right here, right now.
“I am so sick of the colored people that always seem to think that us white people owe them something for what happened over 50 years ago.” -THIS ENTIRE SENTENCE. First off, there was nothing in the original context about “What happened 50 years ago” it was about how one group was looking at one race as a “Zoo creature.” How you got that the anger was somehow about something that happened “50 years ago” is beyond me. Also…your fucking time frame. Even though your comment has NOTHING to do with the reason’s that people were upset, um…50 fucking years ago is NOT a long time. This is an all around fucked up racist, STUPID thing to say. I mean…STOOOPID!
“You yourself aren’t a slave” -I thought we were all going to “Get over it” whatchu talkin’ bout? Also, when did slavery come up in the original conversation. I followed that post for a while and didn’t see ANYONE say that the pictures in question were wrong…BECAUSE OF SLAVERY sooooo….?
“Being called racist for speaking their minds” -IS that why though? IS IT? I mean, it seems that you and your sister are being called racist because YOU ARE RACISTS. This isn’t really THAT confusing, is it?
“I personally think the main reason for it is because colored people are angry because of what happened to their people way back when. I think it’s time we got over it, you know?” -Again with this shit. …and just so I’m clear, and explain this to me real slow so that I understand…what exactly are “WE” getting over? Did you mean “We” as in, “Ya’ll” ‘cause you damn sure didn’t mean “We” an in “Us.” ‘Cause um…what will YOU be getting over, “Sweetie”
"You should be proud of the people who helped end it" -We should rejoice in the white people who “Saved us” and just forget about the white people that shit on us. Yep, sounds reasonable. (If only this had something to do with the REASON your sister was being called a racist in the first place)
This is what a “Non-Racist” looks like, thinks like and IS like. The SELF PROCLAIMED “Non-Racist” is the biggest and WORST of all the racists because they disguise themselves as “One of the good ones.” Although, this post doesn’t do a very good job with hiding things.
I’d also like to point out that the post started off with “Honestly I don’t care if I lose followers over this or not” and then just four sentences later says “In the case that this does offend anyone, I am truly sorry from the bottom of my heart.” Then, the entire racist rant ends with “Any hate that this post receives, or that I receive will be ignored and deleted.” This in and of itself is not racist. However, it does speak to the mind set of a racist. The “I said I’m sorry first so you can’t be mad. However if you ARE mad, it’s your fault not mine” mentality.
Last night I got into a…let’s say a discussion with some fools about President Obama. Okay, no actually it was a Facebook comment argument that started about homosexuality and somehow ended at the President. So ya know, THAT!
Anyway, one of the pieces of crap that I was arguing with was on a rant about the evils of gay marriage and of course I took great joy in letting him know how wrong he was. Now, the way it got to the President was, he was one of those “Oh I see, just because I don’t agree with you I must be homophobic” people. To which I replied, “YEP! It’s because you don’t agree with me. Sure, THAT’s why.”
After I said that he was right about that, he replied with “I don’t like Obama so I guess that means I’m racist.” Again, I said yes and told him why.
Non racist statement:
“I don’t like President Obama.”
“I don’t like President Obama so I guess that means I’m a racist.”
The first comment- is a statement being made that could have any number of reasons behind it. They may or may not be racist. No one will know until you elaborate on the reasons why you feel that way.
The second comment- attaches race to the statement. You see, by saying “I guess that makes me a racist” you are saying that you attache the first part of your statement to the second part of your statement. If race wasn’t actually a factor, racism couldn’t be either. Therefore “Racism” wouldn’t have made an appearance in your comment. YOU believe that race is a factor of your feelings for President Obama. Yes, that DOES make you a racist.
Here’s the best part, when I explained why the statement made was a racist one, the original person plus two other people jumped in with “Well then I guess I’m a racist. You think everyone who doesn’t like Obama is a racist.” Now, is that really what I said or is that what’s in a racist’s head?
This is the letter that the editor wrote in reply to the Too $hort video. I actually felt like it was half assed until the part about changing policy. If this is true, then maybe she should not be the scapegoat for this incident. It seems like she did what was right and did it quickly.
I’m leaving both posts up for your own judgment. Thanks to Karnythia for the additional info.
Here’s the letter we’ll send to Harris Publications President and CEO Stanley R. Harris on your behalf. You can add a personal comment using the box to the right.
Dear Harris Publications President and CEO Stanley R. Harris,
I am writing to ask that you fire XXL Editor-in-Chief Vanessa Satten for providing a platform for dangerous rhetoric that dehumanizes and demeans girls and young women. Under Satten’s leadership, XXL has become a place that promotes violent fantasies involving aggressive, hypersexual boys and preteen girls. I ask that you intervene now.
As you know, the XXL website posted a video interview with rapper Too $hort, who encouraged teenage boys to “turn girls out” by pushing “her up against the wall.” The 45-year-old rapper continued, graphically urging his audience to put their hands inside the underwear of middle school aged girls in order to achieve what he called “mind manipulation.” Your company, XXL, packaged the disturbing monologue under the headline, “Fatherly Advice From Too $hort.”
Rhetoric like this has real effects on girls in our communities. Three out of five Black girls have experienced sexual assault by the time they turn 18. Nearly a third of sexual assault and rape victims are between the ages of 12-17.
I am aware that the magazine has issued a vague apology, but that does not go far enough to hold Satten, the staff’s leader, accountable. It also does nothing to explain what you will do to make sure that sexual violence directed at girls and women is no longer promoted by XXL, King or any of your media companies.
Please act now to remove Satten from her post at XXL and explain what Harris Publications plans to do to make sure your audience isn’t again subjected to rhetoric that characterizes girls and women as playthings who can be fondled and otherwise abused whenever a boy or man pleases.
February was chosen as Black History Month because two important birthdays occur in February. That of Abraham Lincoln, the author of the Emancipation Proclamation, and that of Frederick Douglass, an early African American abolitionist.
I am not sure if it’s true but I shouldn’t be bothered by it, right? I mean, you guys already know how I feel about Abraham Lincoln. I just…can’t help but be irritated by this.
Facebook is a strange place. It’s always weird to see people from school that I haven’t seen in years pop up as a friend request. A while ago, there was someone who sent me a request and as soon as I saw her name, my heart started to beat faster. I was instantly taken back to High School.
I don’t mean that in a good way.
This girl was my “Friend” in high school. The girl that was my friend because of my skin color but because of my skin color, thought she could say things that she REALLY couldn’t.
Ya know, THAT “Friend.” I still felt anger when I saw her face, years later.
Still, I’d made a conscious decision to accept any people from High School because I wanted to give people a chance. Anyone can change, right?
Well, turns out, she HADN’T changed.
In high school her favorite word was the N-Word. Now the reason’s this was okay for her to say was because she had dated a black guy once and because she wasn’t really saying it. She was just saying it, like ya know, in a rap song. Oh and also…black people say it so…
Yeah, she was one of those. Now in high school, if I were to “Overreact” enough to say that is was not okay, she would turn on me QUICK. She was my “Best friend” for a while. This was at a point when I’d moved to an all white world and was the only non-white person in the entire school. She felt entitled to say it. She felt that I was wrong to say that she couldn’t because the mere fact that she hung out with me proved that she wasn’t “Saying it in a racist way.”
Sadly, I hung around her for way to long after these ongoing encounters happened. It was high school and I desperately needed to fit somewhere. If I remember correctly, I even apologized to her for getting upset about it.
Eventually, there came a point where I couldn’t take it any more. There was just TO MUCH running over me just because she could. She loved thinking she was “Powerful” and that is exactly what it was about. Power.
As if my life wasn’t hard enough. Blah! Anyway, I am not going to turn this into a pity party. I’ll get back to the story.
Basically, after being “Friends” with her on Facebook for a few months, we started to talk and she actually seemed to be pretty cool. I think almost a year went by before I saw her and two other people typing out the words to a rap song and making sure to spell out EVERY word.
That was really all I needed to know that she was still, her.
I was passive aggressive for a while. First I just blocked her updates from showing on my page. Then, when she kept trying to talk to me and I just couldn’t justify it anymore, I purposely told someone who LOVES to start trouble that I didn’t like her and like a shot, she deleted me!
I know, I know. Not a grown up thing to do but….that’s what happened. She’s gone and I’m happy.
She is a White woman who primarily dates Mexican men and is a racist. She calls Mexicans “Wet Backs” on a regular basis and just this morning, she stated that a local business failed “Because there were only Spanish people working there.”
Her current boyfriend of 16 years is Mexican. Her previous husband and almost all of her previous boyfriends were also Mexican. (For you fucking assholes out there that don’t know the difference, I am talking about “Mexicans from MEXICO.” Not, ya know, Spanish speaking people that you decide are Mexicans) Any time she says something racist around me, I call her on it. Here’s the thing, she is getting better…around me.
That’s right, she tries to watch what she says around me but only around me. She doesn’t think there is anything wrong with what she is saying because according to her “She can’t be racist because she is with a Mexican” and “It’s okay for her to say Spanish people are dumb because her boyfriend calls her dumb all the time.” Oh and my favorite “I say to his face and he doesn’t care.”
Here’s the really interesting part, the part about how human beings are so multi-faceted. My Aunt is one of the kindest human beings I’ve ever met. I mean that. You know how people will saying things like “That person would give the shirt off their back” well, she actually WOULD do that. She HAS done it. She’s done it for strangers. People that she would never see again and would never really get anything from in return. This woman is the definition of kind. Not “Once in a while kind” she is kind every single day. If I never heard her words and judged only her actions, I would think she was a damned near perfect human being. She is kind to everyone, always…
Except, she is also a racist.
Racists are always painted as “Evil, all bad beings” She isn’t (solely) evil. She is a sweetheart. Except when she is being a full blown fucked up racist. She is both. People don’t seem to want to accept that it is possible to be a “Good person” while also being an “Evil” one. You can. It’s possible. IT IS COMMON.
I realize that I have been vague about my race. I want to apologize for that. I feel somewhat guilty for trying to hide it from you. I wish that I’d spent an entire day talking about it. I wish that I’d tried harder to convey my race. I wish I would have talked about my own personal struggles with race. I wish I would have spent time on my own dealings with my race. I wish I could have been smart enough to know that talking about my own race was important. I wish I had talked about my damned hair. I am sorry that this wasn’t covered in my FAQ.
I feel like I owe you an apology. I realize that I have been perpetrating as a white person and that you had no reason to believe I was otherwise. I hope you will accept this apology in the manner that it is given and go fuck yourself.
I remember studying about the Holocaust in High School. It felt like we covered everything that could have possibly been covered. We learned about the reasons why Hitler did the things he did. What those things were and what he was trying to accomplish. We learned about the Jewish prisoners. Those that tried to escape. Those that didn’t succeed. Those that thought it wasn’t going to amount to anything and those that ended up in concentration camps. We learned about those camps. The horrible things that happened there. The gas chambers, the experiments, the out right de-humanization just for the sheer joy of it. We learned so much. So many details. All horrific.
At the end of the six week period, we took a trip to the Holocaust Museum. There were actual survivor there. They were so kind in telling their stories. You could still see the numbers that were tattooed on them while in the concentration camp.
It was heartbreaking. It was upsetting. It was unsettling. After talking about the holocaust for six weeks prior, there wasn’t much that I expected to be shocked by when we went to the museum.
There was. There was something.
Jews weren’t the only target of Hitler. Yes, they were the only one’s we learned about. They were the only one’s talked about. They are the only one’s brought up when people talk about the Holocaust.
There was a room at the museum. It was filled with pictures. Pictures of black faces. An entire room dedicated to those we don’t talk about. Those that are not considered “Part of the tragedy.” The forgotten, never talked about…those.
Not once, not one single time did it occurs to me that it was anyone other than Jewish people who were affected by this sick situation. Why would it? What reason did I have to ever think it happened to anyone but Jewish people?
My Mother went on this trip with us as a chaperone. She was with me when I walked into this room. I said, out loud “There were black people there too?”
She looked sad. She said yes and nothing else. To this day, I have no idea what my Mother was thinking. I just remember the look on her face. I remember how I felt. I remember the hurt but also the anger of not knowing. Spending six full weeks on this and not knowing.
I am telling you this for one reason. Not to make it seem like the black people (or any brown people for that matter) were somehow different or in need of more attention than the Jewish people. I tell you this because yesterday, just yesterday I saw someone justifying their racism by saying that their family was in a concentration camp. If this is your argument to justify racism, my argument is that…my ancestors were there too. My argument is that, both of our ancestors were there but now, you and only you are saying racist things against someone. Our ancestors cancel each other out and lead us back to today. Today. Right now, this second when you are being racist.
I lived in Tennessee for six years. While I was there, I (Sort-of) worked as a Personal Assistant for this girl. I say “Sort of” because basically, I had an actual full time job and she didn’t actually need an assistant as much as she liked to tell people that she had one.
I was young and naive or at least that was my excuse at the time. The reality is that I was blinded by her. She was a Spoken Word Artist and I was in awe of her. I held this person up on such a pedestal that I am not sure how I wasn’t constantly wiping her ass.
The really sad thing is that the piece that drew me to her in the first place was about how she was a white girl living in a white town but dated and fell in love with a black guy. It was about how she was treated and how they “Loved each other anyway.” All past tense of course.
When she was on stage it was all about memories of this black man and their love for each other. It wasn’t until a few years later during one of her late night drinking sessions that two things happened. First, I saw a picture of him. He was VERY light. Now some of you might think that this doesn’t or shouldn’t matter. However, the Second thing was her telling me that he was mixed but because of his complexion most people thought he was Italian. She said that there were a few people that would mess with them if they knew the truth but those people were few and far between because of his skin tone.
Suddenly, things were a little more clear. There was a predominantly black club where Spoken Word Artists would perform and I would always ask her why she never performed there. She would always claim that it was because “The black people didn’t like it when white people were there.” Now at the time, I hadn’t been there yet so I took her word for it. I can say for sure, that was NOT the case.
You see, She didn’t want to be the only white girl in the room. She wanted to be in a sea of white people and be the only white girl who’d dated a black man. That would mean that she was the “Different one.” The “Open minded” one. The odd one but odd in the best of ways. It gave her the attention she craved but in a safe haven. She got to be the “Minority” while still maintaining superiority. It was it’s own stardom and being the center of attention was what she craved.
Please note that I didn’t find out the truth about the story (or her) until I was maybe five years in. She knew what drew me to her in the beginning and she used that to her advantage. Now, I can’t place all the blame on her because I was old enough to be able to take care of myself. Still, I can’t really put into words how betrayed I felt. Seeing her for who she was made me feel like an idiot. I wanted to ignore it. I did ignore it and it came back to bite me. This was the very last time I didn’t go with my gut when I was dealing in race issues. Your gut always knows.